Life threw these parents unexpected curve balls and rather than work to catch them, they dropped their balls giving the devil an easy run to home base. As effective parents we fight for what is right concerning our children, we go after those dropped balls and work to get that devil out! Ineffective parents don't care and most often look for excuses to get out of playing the game.
Parenting isn't easy, but it doesn't have to be too difficult. Sometimes we manufacture our own challenges and downfalls simply by not being present, pro-active, and daring when it comes to raising children. For instance, we receive a phone call about our children misbehaving at school and the issues need our immediate attention. The bad news breaks our routine of having an ordinarily peaceful lunch at work. It is at that moment the voice on the other end of the phone is waiting to see what we might do. Leave a job, discipline the child in-person or via phone, or hurriedly excuse ourselves from the call, remain at work and wish the problem away.
Before children, we were primarily concerned about ourselves and when things suddenly happened we dealt with them without thinking too much. But isn't it interesting how much we ponder once we have children and whether what they say or do is worth acting upon, "How much is it going to cost to fix, and what more might I have to do if I should say yes to something I am not completely convinced about?" We carefully manage situations, talk with others (or vent) about our parental concerns, and other times we wonder, "Now why would the Creator of the universe pick me to be a parent?"