Showing posts with label teens. Show all posts
Showing posts with label teens. Show all posts
Don't Coddle Your Teen - So What About that Attitude!
They will eye roll, deep sigh, answer you with "...that tone," and do other things that will annoy you, but stay cool Mom and Dad! This too shall pass. Just think parents, they will have to deal with your menopause and andropause one day, if not already (sigh). Anyway, what is it that we might be doing to coddle these moody teens and how can we avoid hurting them in the process.
1. We promise to buy them whatever they ask for.
Whether you have the money now or later, is it really necessary to say one thing and then later do another? The teen is watching and no wonder they don't believe you will do anything that you say.
2. We don't talk to them about getting a job and making money now rather than later.
As long as you are cheering on the sidelines when they run, bounce, or throw a ball for free, then why should they work? There is only so much time after school and on weekends. What are they doing this summer?
3. We assume that we will be paying for college.
As if there are no other alternatives? Why encourage debt that you know you have no intention of helping them pay off balances. Notice I said, pay off, not carry balances. If you can't afford college, say so. Now redirect them toward more practical choices. They will thank you later when they see their friends are swimming in debt, can't own a house, have children, and don't know if they will have enough money next month to pay for groceries.
4. We believe that they will be alright even when the signs are saying otherwise.
Every parent wants to believe that their children will be a success in life. But the truth is, how much time, money and energy are you investing in that mind, body and soul of your teen? You see something isn't right, you get professional help.
5. We enlist the help of others to aid in spoiling them.
Just because you have child-free relatives doesn't mean they are willing to help. Not all grandparents enjoy having children around often. So is it worth getting the good, bad, and ugly on board to spoil your child? It all might come back to haunt you later.
6. We let them stay in rooms for hours without speaking to them and then complain about them not speaking much or acting interested in the family.
Make up your mind on what you want to do. There is a season for everything. Remember those times when you couldn't wait until they grew up and stopped following you around the house? Well those times are here, enjoy them.
7. We are not willing to compromise on the things that are important to them.
They have their lives, we have ours. If the teen likes something that isn't harmful and may not be something you like, why discourage him or her? Who knows, that just might be the calling on their life you asked God about.
Guide your teen, don't control him or her. A lesson we are all learning. God bless you for reading.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry.
1. We promise to buy them whatever they ask for.
Whether you have the money now or later, is it really necessary to say one thing and then later do another? The teen is watching and no wonder they don't believe you will do anything that you say.
2. We don't talk to them about getting a job and making money now rather than later.
As long as you are cheering on the sidelines when they run, bounce, or throw a ball for free, then why should they work? There is only so much time after school and on weekends. What are they doing this summer?
3. We assume that we will be paying for college.
As if there are no other alternatives? Why encourage debt that you know you have no intention of helping them pay off balances. Notice I said, pay off, not carry balances. If you can't afford college, say so. Now redirect them toward more practical choices. They will thank you later when they see their friends are swimming in debt, can't own a house, have children, and don't know if they will have enough money next month to pay for groceries.
4. We believe that they will be alright even when the signs are saying otherwise.
Every parent wants to believe that their children will be a success in life. But the truth is, how much time, money and energy are you investing in that mind, body and soul of your teen? You see something isn't right, you get professional help.
5. We enlist the help of others to aid in spoiling them.
Just because you have child-free relatives doesn't mean they are willing to help. Not all grandparents enjoy having children around often. So is it worth getting the good, bad, and ugly on board to spoil your child? It all might come back to haunt you later.
6. We let them stay in rooms for hours without speaking to them and then complain about them not speaking much or acting interested in the family.
Make up your mind on what you want to do. There is a season for everything. Remember those times when you couldn't wait until they grew up and stopped following you around the house? Well those times are here, enjoy them.
7. We are not willing to compromise on the things that are important to them.
They have their lives, we have ours. If the teen likes something that isn't harmful and may not be something you like, why discourage him or her? Who knows, that just might be the calling on their life you asked God about.
Guide your teen, don't control him or her. A lesson we are all learning. God bless you for reading.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry.
6 Things You Need to Remember About Being A Teen
Disgruntled parents love reminding you about those "dreaded teen years" and "terrible teens." Wouldn't you have loved to hear people talk about how bad you were going to become as a toddler or tween? People who have nothing but negative experiences with their son or daughter love giving unwanted advice, don't they! Well, the following are six things you must remember about being a teen.
1. Girls like boys and boys like girls. Therefore, you can do as much as you possibly can to keep the two separate, but at some point someone is going to say, "I love him...I love her..." so be prepared not by screaming your head off at your frisky teen, but taking care to be wise, strong and armed with whatever you think will make him or her slow down! Oh by the way, more and more same sex relationships are happening too, so don't be so sure that their isn't a girl or guy that likes your child or vice versa a whole lot!
2. Teens need sleep. They are growing steadily and that takes energy! For some, their body is aching with all the developing that is going on, so if their sleeping is not interfering with your schedule, let them. They might be less irritable if they get a good rest each night.
3. Teens could use vitamin and/or herbal supplements too. With all the hormonal changes going on in their bodies, wouldn't it make sense to interview your son or daughter about their bodies and find something to help them through their transitions?
4. Teens worry. You recall the worries you had growing up ie.) grades, friends, parents, money. Well just because your teen's life may or may not have been like yours, doesn't mean he or she doesn't have worries. Sometimes teens will communicate, sometimes they won't. Just let them know, you are available to listen and make them feel comfortable to talk as much or as little as they want about an issue.
5. Teens care a lot about how they look while others don't. Whether it's what you consider a tacky hairstyle or clothing, it's what they like. Try to reach a compromise on where and when they should be expressive. If their style is too extreme and they don't want to compromise, slowly fade them out of certain family functions. There is no law that says you have to put up with a defiant teen--did your parents put up with you?!
6. Teens really don't know what they want out of life. Some may have an idea while others are clueless! As a parent you are just a guide, so direct them to something that may peak their interest (not so much yours.) Avoid being the dictator who wants to fulfill your dreams through your teen or you just might find that later in life, you won't have much of a relationship with your son or daughter, he or she might shame you, or worse do something self-destructive.
Nicholl is a parent and a former worker at the San Diego Job Corps. and the Homeless Student Initiative.
1. Girls like boys and boys like girls. Therefore, you can do as much as you possibly can to keep the two separate, but at some point someone is going to say, "I love him...I love her..." so be prepared not by screaming your head off at your frisky teen, but taking care to be wise, strong and armed with whatever you think will make him or her slow down! Oh by the way, more and more same sex relationships are happening too, so don't be so sure that their isn't a girl or guy that likes your child or vice versa a whole lot!
2. Teens need sleep. They are growing steadily and that takes energy! For some, their body is aching with all the developing that is going on, so if their sleeping is not interfering with your schedule, let them. They might be less irritable if they get a good rest each night.
3. Teens could use vitamin and/or herbal supplements too. With all the hormonal changes going on in their bodies, wouldn't it make sense to interview your son or daughter about their bodies and find something to help them through their transitions?
4. Teens worry. You recall the worries you had growing up ie.) grades, friends, parents, money. Well just because your teen's life may or may not have been like yours, doesn't mean he or she doesn't have worries. Sometimes teens will communicate, sometimes they won't. Just let them know, you are available to listen and make them feel comfortable to talk as much or as little as they want about an issue.
5. Teens care a lot about how they look while others don't. Whether it's what you consider a tacky hairstyle or clothing, it's what they like. Try to reach a compromise on where and when they should be expressive. If their style is too extreme and they don't want to compromise, slowly fade them out of certain family functions. There is no law that says you have to put up with a defiant teen--did your parents put up with you?!
6. Teens really don't know what they want out of life. Some may have an idea while others are clueless! As a parent you are just a guide, so direct them to something that may peak their interest (not so much yours.) Avoid being the dictator who wants to fulfill your dreams through your teen or you just might find that later in life, you won't have much of a relationship with your son or daughter, he or she might shame you, or worse do something self-destructive.
Nicholl is a parent and a former worker at the San Diego Job Corps. and the Homeless Student Initiative.
Teens And Cell Phone Activity - How To Trace It
If your teenagers are like most, they probably have their own cell phones. While giving your kid, 'tween', or teen is generally seen as a good idea nowadays, there are some obvious downsides to kids and teenagers having their own cell phones -- namely, it gives them a way to communicate with people, and sometimes access the internet, without your oversight. Fortunately, however, there are ways for you to keep tabs on your teens' cell phone activity if you feel you need to -- through cell phone forensics.
Cell phones, and the freedoms they give teenagers
Cell phones nowadays are not just portable mobile devices; most modern cell phones provide all-in-one phone, text, chat, video, photo, and internet browsing capabilities. With a relatively modern cell phone -- prepaid or otherwise -- your teen can be calling, texting, or chatting with anybody in the world, regardless of whether you approve of their activities or not. Unfortunately, unless you're controlling every facet of your teens' cell phone functionality and usage, there's a chance that this unfettered freedom could lead to unwanted problems in the near future or later on down the road.
Keeping tabs on your teens' cell phone activity with modern technology
For most parents, it should be relatively easy to find out the call history on your kids' cell phone. After all, the cell phone bill is probably in a parent's name, thus at least some of the cell phone activity will show up on the cell phone bill. However, when you need to find out details -- such as deleted text messages, deleted emails, and maybe websites being visited, or photos being stored -- a simple cell phone bill simply won't do. In cases like these, you'll need the help of a cell phone forensics investigator.
Cell phone forensics are based an older technology that has been adapted to work with today's digital devices. Not too long ago, recovering deleted files and 'hidden' information was reserved for computer hard drives, and it wasn't affordable for the average consumer. However, now these technologies -- which can be used to find information on basic cell phones to today's most complex mobile computing devices -- are more affordable, and quite frankly -- more in need than ever before.
Information available through cell phone forensics
Regardless of how your teen might try to hide it, there is a wealth of information available by a forensic scan of your teens' cell phone:
* Deleted SMS / text messages
* Deleted emails
* Deleted video / photos
* Detailed caller ID history
* etc.
If you implicitly trust your teenager, maybe there's no need to scan their cell phone for activities that you might not approve of. However, as you're reading this article -- you apparently think otherwise. If you want to know what your teenager has been up to on their cell phone, there's no better method available than through cell phone forensics services. Not only will you know what they're up to today, you'll also know what it is that they deleted yesterday as well.
By: Rick D. James
Cell phone forensics investigations are an affordable way to help protect your kids from today's dangerous situations. Visit our online investigation website or review EmailRevealer.com's popular services.
Cell phones, and the freedoms they give teenagers
Cell phones nowadays are not just portable mobile devices; most modern cell phones provide all-in-one phone, text, chat, video, photo, and internet browsing capabilities. With a relatively modern cell phone -- prepaid or otherwise -- your teen can be calling, texting, or chatting with anybody in the world, regardless of whether you approve of their activities or not. Unfortunately, unless you're controlling every facet of your teens' cell phone functionality and usage, there's a chance that this unfettered freedom could lead to unwanted problems in the near future or later on down the road.
Keeping tabs on your teens' cell phone activity with modern technology
For most parents, it should be relatively easy to find out the call history on your kids' cell phone. After all, the cell phone bill is probably in a parent's name, thus at least some of the cell phone activity will show up on the cell phone bill. However, when you need to find out details -- such as deleted text messages, deleted emails, and maybe websites being visited, or photos being stored -- a simple cell phone bill simply won't do. In cases like these, you'll need the help of a cell phone forensics investigator.
Cell phone forensics are based an older technology that has been adapted to work with today's digital devices. Not too long ago, recovering deleted files and 'hidden' information was reserved for computer hard drives, and it wasn't affordable for the average consumer. However, now these technologies -- which can be used to find information on basic cell phones to today's most complex mobile computing devices -- are more affordable, and quite frankly -- more in need than ever before.
Information available through cell phone forensics
Regardless of how your teen might try to hide it, there is a wealth of information available by a forensic scan of your teens' cell phone:
* Deleted SMS / text messages
* Deleted emails
* Deleted video / photos
* Detailed caller ID history
* etc.
If you implicitly trust your teenager, maybe there's no need to scan their cell phone for activities that you might not approve of. However, as you're reading this article -- you apparently think otherwise. If you want to know what your teenager has been up to on their cell phone, there's no better method available than through cell phone forensics services. Not only will you know what they're up to today, you'll also know what it is that they deleted yesterday as well.
By: Rick D. James
Cell phone forensics investigations are an affordable way to help protect your kids from today's dangerous situations. Visit our online investigation website or review EmailRevealer.com's popular services.
Disrespectful and Rebellious Teens
Defiant Teens are children that have no respect for authority and mainly disrespect their parents.
Back talk when your teenager rudely tells you that you are a tyrant or an idiot has to be one of the hardest things for parents to deal with. Respect for parents is highly valued in every culture. Ways of showing respect differ from family to family. Some require prompt obedience without any protest; others are more relaxed. But disrespectful behavior is a tough challenge regardless of the specific form it takes.
We have found that children that have Defiance Disorder are very confrontational and need to have life their own way. It is a trait that some teens experience through their puberty years. Defiant teens, disrespectful teens, angry teens and rebellious teens can affect the entire family.
You will find yourself wondering what you ever did to deserve the way your child is treating you. It is very sad, yet very real. Please know that many families are experiencing this feeling of destruction within their home. Many wonder "why" and unfortunately each child is different with a variety of issues they are dealing with. Once a child is placed into proper treatment, the healing process can begin.
Their bodies and ideas are often equally awkward and unfinished but their struggle to master both is fascinating. Negotiating their transition from childhood to adulthood means that we are all making adjustments. As is always the case, this stage of my children's development is making me continue my own growth in the ways I manage human relationships.
To get to self-direction, there are a few universal explanations for every one of the situations that follow.
First, our children need to understand and agree and the consequence for breaking it. Only when they come to agree with our rules, through their own internal dialogue, will they become self-directed.
Second, sometimes parenting strategy leads some problems. Are you over-controlling or over-protective? Either trait can elicit an externally directed response, as your children react to an unhealthy situation.
Third, remember for all these parenting challenges how important it is for you as parents, to model the right behavior. If you're expecting your children to act one way and you act another, then the system falls down.
Parents of teenagers describe the teen years as a time of change, fear, rebellion, moodiness, disrespect, and frustration. But they also say it can be a time of fun, growth, adventure, sharing, understanding, and learning. Research shows that one of the best things you can do for your teen is simply to be there for them. An effective way to work with defiant teens is through anger and stress management classes. If you have a local therapist, ask them if they offer these classes. Most will have them along with support groups and other beneficial classes.
If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School or in time, you will find the ways to overcome your phobia. If you have trouble, talk to a professional who can give you additional insights on your situation. Just log on the following websites: free to go:
http://www.abundantlifeacademy.com
http://www.troubledteenministries.com/
http://www.restoretroubledteens.com/ Abundant life academy, It is a school for troubled teens that have a great deal of academic potential and a good heart, yet they are currently off track, lost, and wandering in the desert (selfish, ungrateful, disrespect and lazy) in need of immediate infusion of God's precious Spirit and a restored relationship with Jesus Christ (selfless, thankful, and motivated to excel). Restore Troubled Teens are worked for teens based on teens suicide, teens violence, adolescence, etc.
About Author: Nivea David For listings please visit http://www.abundantlifeacademy.com/ Schools For Troubled Teens. You can also visit http://www.troubledteenministries.com/ for Camp For Troubled Teens. And http://www.restoretroubledteens.com/ for Teen Boarding Schools
Back talk when your teenager rudely tells you that you are a tyrant or an idiot has to be one of the hardest things for parents to deal with. Respect for parents is highly valued in every culture. Ways of showing respect differ from family to family. Some require prompt obedience without any protest; others are more relaxed. But disrespectful behavior is a tough challenge regardless of the specific form it takes.
We have found that children that have Defiance Disorder are very confrontational and need to have life their own way. It is a trait that some teens experience through their puberty years. Defiant teens, disrespectful teens, angry teens and rebellious teens can affect the entire family.
You will find yourself wondering what you ever did to deserve the way your child is treating you. It is very sad, yet very real. Please know that many families are experiencing this feeling of destruction within their home. Many wonder "why" and unfortunately each child is different with a variety of issues they are dealing with. Once a child is placed into proper treatment, the healing process can begin.
Their bodies and ideas are often equally awkward and unfinished but their struggle to master both is fascinating. Negotiating their transition from childhood to adulthood means that we are all making adjustments. As is always the case, this stage of my children's development is making me continue my own growth in the ways I manage human relationships.
To get to self-direction, there are a few universal explanations for every one of the situations that follow.
First, our children need to understand and agree and the consequence for breaking it. Only when they come to agree with our rules, through their own internal dialogue, will they become self-directed.
Second, sometimes parenting strategy leads some problems. Are you over-controlling or over-protective? Either trait can elicit an externally directed response, as your children react to an unhealthy situation.
Third, remember for all these parenting challenges how important it is for you as parents, to model the right behavior. If you're expecting your children to act one way and you act another, then the system falls down.
Parents of teenagers describe the teen years as a time of change, fear, rebellion, moodiness, disrespect, and frustration. But they also say it can be a time of fun, growth, adventure, sharing, understanding, and learning. Research shows that one of the best things you can do for your teen is simply to be there for them. An effective way to work with defiant teens is through anger and stress management classes. If you have a local therapist, ask them if they offer these classes. Most will have them along with support groups and other beneficial classes.
If you feel your teen is in need of further Boarding School or in time, you will find the ways to overcome your phobia. If you have trouble, talk to a professional who can give you additional insights on your situation. Just log on the following websites: free to go:
http://www.abundantlifeacademy.com
http://www.troubledteenministries.com/
http://www.restoretroubledteens.com/ Abundant life academy, It is a school for troubled teens that have a great deal of academic potential and a good heart, yet they are currently off track, lost, and wandering in the desert (selfish, ungrateful, disrespect and lazy) in need of immediate infusion of God's precious Spirit and a restored relationship with Jesus Christ (selfless, thankful, and motivated to excel). Restore Troubled Teens are worked for teens based on teens suicide, teens violence, adolescence, etc.
About Author: Nivea David For listings please visit http://www.abundantlifeacademy.com/ Schools For Troubled Teens. You can also visit http://www.troubledteenministries.com/ for Camp For Troubled Teens. And http://www.restoretroubledteens.com/ for Teen Boarding Schools
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