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Unexpected Life Challenges, Know Where to Look for Help


Busy Life? More Strife.

 
 
 
Does every leaflet, flier, or invite need you and your family connected with it?  What about family gatherings and other social events?  The more you involve yourself with such activities, the more likely you will burn out.  You might be snappy with your partner, impatient with children, or disappointed about money issues--whatever the case, sit down, take a look at your life and start cutting off and cutting back on all your activities.

When to Stop Doing So Much for Children?

As a parent, you will know when it is time to pull back from giving children so much when you realize they can do some things on their own.  When I finally came to the revelation that I could encourage my sons to be more responsible is when I couldn't do everything for them.  From stomach cramps to headaches, there are those times when mom is not going to be able to stand on her feet to cook, clean, wash dishes, take out the trash, and do other things.  So it was then that I thought, these boys can do something to help out around our residence from the toddler to the tween back in 2011.

In time, I found other things they could do even when I wasn't sick.  I taught the little ones how to fold clothes, get a snack out for themselves, and I showed the older ones how to wipe down walls and cabinets, run the vacuums, dust, microwave a meal, and keep the younger ones entertained.  They know how to do far more than what is listed, but this was my start at teaching them responsibility as well as earning money and other things they wanted.  To date, the older ones are very independent, the younger ones are getting there, but sometimes dad sets them back especially when, "I don't want to..." followed with a crying outburst comes from them.

I understand that some parents want to keep children young forever, but the time will be here before you know it when you will cry out, "Is there anything you can do for yourself?"  Start directing your children on that independent path for their own survival.  We parents are just not promised to be here tomorrow.  So do remember that the next time you attempt to do something for your child that he or she is perfectly capable of doing themselves.

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Don't Take a Chance, Avoid Leaving Children Alone

For some parents they can be very irresponsible when it comes to raising children.  They leave babies alone for long periods of time, fail to control meal size and snack times, children are permitted to play with or near dangerous things, while others are allowed to participate in activities far too despicable to name here. 

When confronted on obvious wrongs when it comes to children, some parents, especially those who have been exposed to all sorts of evil during childhood, will justify why, "It's okay...I turned out okay...I don't need anyone telling me how to raise my children, I know what I'm doing."

Years ago, I overheard some news about children who had been left alone and burned up in a house fire, it turned out to be relatives of mine.  The mother was out doing God knows what!  She told no one what she was up to that day.

I have heard all too often children being left in rooms for hours "to play" while adults were in other rooms only to find that an older child is demonstrating sexual acts on younger siblings. 

The longer children are left alone, the probability that they will do something they have no business is likely.  Older children know how to pretend like nothing has happened while parents are away.  They learn how to clean up messes, tell lies, and blame others.  I have heard countless stories of children participating in underage drinking, experimenting with drugs, viewing porn, and doing many other things while parents are busy working, visiting friends, shopping, traveling, and most of all sleep.

If you are a parent and haven't checked your children's phones and gaming devices lately, you might want to.  If you haven't checked up on baby-sitters in awhile, you should.  If it has been a long time since you sat down with children and had a real conversation with them, you should consider doing it.  There are so many people in this world who blur the lines between good and evil and don't mind using children to help create a nonchalant culture.

Nicholl McGuire

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