You know when you have to turn up the discipline, teens will not hesitate to test a parent. The back talk shows up when you tell them to do something. The eye-rolls and deep sighs present a new character you didn't encounter when they were small and cute. Things they once didn't mind telling you are now off-limits. Buy them some gifts and they aren't too happy about your selections no matter how much time you spent getting them or how much money you paid for them.
Tough teens are not easy to parent especially when they were born into a tough atmosphere. Parents were hollering (possibly fighting), grandparents were rude and ignorant, the environment in the neighborhood was challenging, and friends were at times wild and crazy. Throw in some alcohol and drugs and children were exposed to far too much then they should have. So it isn't any wonder when a tough teen talks, walks and acts tough.
Violent and sexual media doesn't help matters when it comes to raising teens. Parents who permit a child to watch and play with whatever will be faced with more issues than one who tends to monitor his or her child's activities on and offline.
A wayward teen is one who may have started on the right path (being respectful, caring, loving, etc.), but has now changed due to any number of factors including a parent not making time to assist a son or daughter or failing to find and pay for necessary resources to help him or her. Many teens suffer from lack. A parent who lacks knowledge, wisdom, time, and money is most likely going to have trouble with a teen's behavior in and out of school. The parent might be very good about buying things, attending sporting events, participating in school projects, etc. but have a bad attitude at home. He or she could be impatient, rude, strict, or have a personality disorder. Those who live with the parent know better including a child turned teen who simply can't deal with a parent's issues any longer.
Parents can make their lives easier by taking the time to learn more about what makes your teen feel the need to back-talk, (i.e) for a young girl could this be connected to her menstrual cycle? Maybe there is a teen boy who finds it difficult to talk about a closet behavior he might have, why? Whatever the issue, the Internet is the book that generations before us didn't have to help them raise us when we were teens, but we do have, so why not make the most of it? Forums, blogs like this, videos and articles related to how to communicate with teens might provide you with the insight you need to deal with issues.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains When Mothers Cry, the blog.
Tough teens are not easy to parent especially when they were born into a tough atmosphere. Parents were hollering (possibly fighting), grandparents were rude and ignorant, the environment in the neighborhood was challenging, and friends were at times wild and crazy. Throw in some alcohol and drugs and children were exposed to far too much then they should have. So it isn't any wonder when a tough teen talks, walks and acts tough.
Violent and sexual media doesn't help matters when it comes to raising teens. Parents who permit a child to watch and play with whatever will be faced with more issues than one who tends to monitor his or her child's activities on and offline.
A wayward teen is one who may have started on the right path (being respectful, caring, loving, etc.), but has now changed due to any number of factors including a parent not making time to assist a son or daughter or failing to find and pay for necessary resources to help him or her. Many teens suffer from lack. A parent who lacks knowledge, wisdom, time, and money is most likely going to have trouble with a teen's behavior in and out of school. The parent might be very good about buying things, attending sporting events, participating in school projects, etc. but have a bad attitude at home. He or she could be impatient, rude, strict, or have a personality disorder. Those who live with the parent know better including a child turned teen who simply can't deal with a parent's issues any longer.
Parents can make their lives easier by taking the time to learn more about what makes your teen feel the need to back-talk, (i.e) for a young girl could this be connected to her menstrual cycle? Maybe there is a teen boy who finds it difficult to talk about a closet behavior he might have, why? Whatever the issue, the Internet is the book that generations before us didn't have to help them raise us when we were teens, but we do have, so why not make the most of it? Forums, blogs like this, videos and articles related to how to communicate with teens might provide you with the insight you need to deal with issues.
Nicholl McGuire also maintains When Mothers Cry, the blog.
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